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Road Trip!! wwwooohhoo??

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We have decided to go on a family road trip, it has gone well but I miss home.

Both SD & BS have been great on this trip, no major drama. We apparently didn't get the donuts SD likes so we got a little offa that and she doesn't want to share her toys with BS (who is 4 so I try to keep him out of her stuff), but what ANNOYS me, is that she WANTS to play with all HIS toys. I tell that she needs to be fair, if she wants him to share, then she should do the same. He at times wants to hold a Barbie and play with her & she gets upset, but ohh well sibling rivalry.

Today was ok?

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The day started out the same as always, DH has learned to help me out with the kiddos in the mornings since he works late and is not here for bed times. I took SD to school and DH took BS to daycare. On our way to school SD doesn't talk or anything, like I said before, when I try to make small talk she shoots me down so I turn the radio on louder than usual to kinda cut the tension.

A better today!?

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The day started out like usual, SD doesn't really speaks to me unless she needs something. The entire ride to school is awkward because neither one of us is speaking to each other. I try & make small talk but I get shot down QUICK! But wait, when we get to school!?!? "MOM, I hope you have a GREAT day! I LOVE you!!" With a huge hug! So, should I take it personal? May this be a reason why I just don't feel close to her? We just can't relate to one another. There are a lot of things that still annoy me about her, but I am sincerely trying here! I get tired of trying to talk with her.

One more day!!

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SO, I really do NOT want to be petty but it has been increasingly hard to avoid it. I spoke to DH last night and he informed that he did in fact speak to SD about the incident at the tennis courts and now I am even more upset be was so dismissive when I decided to take the adult approach and talk to her. I really do NOT want to go down to a child's level and say "well you know what SD, today i don't want to play with you!" I don't think that is productive, it's just plain mean! But I don't know how else to get thru to her. This is NOT the first time she does something like this.

One step forward TWO HUGE steps back

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I thought my SD and I were finally getting somewhat used to one another. Yes she still annoys the crap outta me, but I am learning how to live with it and not let it get to me. I think the reason she annoys me so much is because she looks JUST like her BM. Ohh well, I will learn to deal, but I thought we were moving forward. As I have posted before she calls me mom, I am the only SO she knows her BD with. My DH is never home, he works his ass off, and so the person that has always taken care of her has been ME and so she calls me mom.

The Stepies

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So... our family is a bit more blended than I would like to admit. My SD is very close to her step-dad, he is like a father to her, she calls him dad! She calls his mom grandma, ok we are good!! Right?!? :?

One day at a time....

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So... things have been getting a bit better here at home with SD. She still expects things to get done, but since I found a place to vent I don't feel as resentful towards her as before. Yesterday was funny, DH has been working late and it has been me and the kids... alone! :jawdrop: I worked until late yesterday and so on the way home I picked up dinner, I don't really like to eat out :sick: , I much prefer to cook, call me crazy... so when the kids, SD10 & BS4, and I are eating dinner she starts with her: "well, I think that you should cook Mexican! I mean, you are Mexican...

A new day... a new uuuuggghhhh!!!!

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I am glad to say that today was better. I think she woke up in a better mood, but I think my SD may be on the Autism spectrum. I have made this comment to my husband, but he says that since I am a psychologist/social worker (veterans, not children), I am specifically looking for things and I am not looking a the whole picture. I know that she is ADD, but I think she may on the spectrum.

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