Today was the last time that I will have to clean up after any of my DH 4 kids. I finished emptying and cleaned SD22's now vacant bedroom.

SD22, his youngest, left last night in grand fashion. Complete with yelling, stomping, slaming and crying...can't forget the crying, there is always crying. What was the straw that finally pushed this adult to move out of her dad's house you ask? He told her to clean her room. Yes, clean her room. See, said adult child has developed a hoarding issue and was starting her collecting career in her upstairs bedroom. Complete with parakete shite stuck to my hardwood floors. Garbage, food and thousands of dollars in clothes, shoes and beauty supplies in heaps in this bedroom. At one point she made an attempt to spread this hoard in to another of the bedrooms upstairs, I squashed that immediatly. Wanting to give her privacy, I kept my "bitchy" self out of her room for about a year. Then having to enter her room yesterday, found the mess that about gave me a heart attack. 

DH came home, we went up and talked to SD22. It was all really laid back and chill...until it wasn't. When DH suggested donating the clothes and books that she no longer used and or were from highschool (or earlier), she exploded. Crying, yelling and gnashing of teeth. Guys, it was bad. When this particular SD loses her cool, the whole energy changes, like, dark guys. It's something to experience. Anyway, thats when the move out process began. Right then and there. She was a manic frenzy, packing garbage bags and boxes as furiously as she could. Left, came back with an empty vehicle to load again. Left for the night to stay at SD23's house. Came back this morning to get another load! She drives an SUV. Y'all, this room is only 10 x 14. That's how much stuff was in there and she didn't take any furniture or her bed with her!

My DH has 4 kids from a previous marriage. They divorced, DH and I married, then BM died, leaving me to raise all her offspring. I will not sugar coat this, it was hell, for everyone. My marriage almost ended about a million times and there was constant stress and grief. All of his kids ended up leaving in an explosion of some sort, well except one, she left in the middle of the night (coward). I have a BD21 who was raise in this terrible enviroment and I regret that everyday. She had a stressed out and depressed mom. It was rough, really rough. BM did an amazing job at teaching her kids I was the anti-christ. It stuck. I could do no right but let's be honest, after a while of living like this, I didn't really care anymore. See, I love my DH but he checked out, totally. Left me to "raise" his exwifes kids. He brought home the money and I did the rest. Exhaustion is an understatment.

But long story, and I mean long story short, I survived.

And you can too. If you choose to run because it's just too damn hard, I get it. If you choose to leave because your BK's are suffering, I get it. If BM is just too much of a raging Biatch, I get it. BUT if you do decide to stick it out, I get that too. You keep thinking, "it will get better, DH will pull his head from his arse and help me. DH will finally stand up for me and his home. SK's will grow up and finally leave, I get that.

Please know that you ARE NOT ALONE. There are hundreds, maybe thousands of us that just want to hear that it's okay to not like your SK's and IT IS! You are a human person. You were a person before your life got kicked over and you will one day be one again. But please promise me that you won't fill your Bio kids's childhood with stress due to Skids's. It's NOT worth that. 

So, today I leave your ranks. I am officially no longer a SM, I have resigned.

And today was the last day that I will EVER clean up after one of DH's ex-wifes kids

Sincerly,

The late,

EvilestStepMom