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BJG2012's picture

I am new to this and I'm so happy to have found this outlet for my frustration. A little back story, I was divorced for 15 years with two grown kids. I married a man 2 years ago that has now a 9 year old and a 17 year old. The 17 year old girl lives with us 1/2 the time. Her mom (the kids have 2 different moms)lives 15 miles or so away and does not contribute financially to help with her daughter at all. She acts like a friend not a mom. My husband pays for her private school education, braces, everything.
Well, when SD turned 16 last year, my husband gave her a car, not a new one, his old Honda Accord. She totaled it two weeks ago on the interstate at night because she was looking at her phone and not watching in front of her. She hit a service truck that had flashing lights all over it - they were striping the road. Now we are looking to buy another car so that he can once again give her the car he now drives. What upsets me is that he doesn't blame this wreck on her. She told him she did not see the truck with all the flashing lights because it was just around a curve. The truck was in the left hand lane with an arrow pointing to the left. She went left which as the EMERGENCY LANE and she hit a wall and then hit the truck. Crazy! If she would have been watching the road and not looking at her phone, she would have moved over to the right regardless which was the arrow on the sign was pointing. This is just so typical when it comes to his reactions with her though. No matter what she does, there is never a consequence to her. If it were my daughter, all be damned if she would have a phone or a car for a while.

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BJG2012's picture

I agree. It just kills me how she looks him right in the face and lies to him all the time and he lets her get away with it even when he knows she is lying.

Hanny's picture

My SO's daughter was in a DUI accident, she rear ended someone on the freeway. Her alcohol blood content was 2 1/2 times legal limits. BUT it wasn't her fault, SO even said once that he thought the man was stopped on the freeway, or it was a set up! PLEASE! The girl was drunk as a skunk and it was entirely her fault. She actually ended up getting 2 felony charges for this accident. She even spent 130 days in prison...prison...not jail! And what did she get when she got out of prison, BM bought her a brand new car!

I read an article the other day about how the divorce rate might be perhaps just one of the reasons for the 'entitle generation' that are growing up. Because of the guilty parents, their kids get everything and can do nothing bad!

DaizyDuke's picture

it was a set up

OMG! Does your SO also believe that lizard monkey aliens are taking over the earth??

Evil stepmonster's picture

I can't believe his daughter getting into a car accident because she was looking at her phone wasn't a wake up call. Not only could he loose his daughter, but what if she's driving while fbing and kills someone? Your DH should be ashamed of himself. If he isn't worried about loosing his daughter he should think of the people out there that do worry about loosing their family members due to drivers like your SD. I can't remember what it's called, but my DH put an app on my OBS phone, as soon as he turns the ignition on his phone goes into driving mode. No noitifications or calls come threw. If someone tries to text or call him while he's driving it sends them a message saying the person you are trying to reach is driving and will recieve your message once he or she has reached the destination. I think that app should be manditory for all teen drivers.

hereiam's picture

Who's insurance is she on?

She should not be getting another car until she grows the hell up. Shame on both of her parents for not taking this more seriously. Maybe they will when they are sued.