My husband and I have just had the same argument again.... It's about him planning his "man trips" when SD is home. I think two weekends out of each month should plenty of time away with the boys. Stay home when SD is here. I feel terrible. I do not dislike my SD, but we are not close. And I don't want to babysit!!!! She is 12. Not old enough in my book to stay at home alone. He gets so mad because I want him here when she is here. Spend time with her, or make a dad and daughter trip! I think it would be the greatest and have suggested it several times.