Little Idiot latest move
Little Idiot moved out of her apartment apparently. If you recall last summer Goofy left her high and dry holding the full rent payment when he moved out of apartment 1 on her. She them over into apartment 2 last December with one of her (female) friends. They had a 1 year lease which would have been up this December. Now she's moved out of that apartment (leaving the other girl high and dry?). I am 99.9999% sure LI was struggling/unable to make her half of the rent payments.
I thought she was going to move in with The Skunk Ape (who lives about a hour away on the coast) but nope. She is currently living in the same area in an apartment with a retiree couple (I know because all her orders started suddenly going to this new address and I did a reverse search). How she met these people I have no idea. They don't have much disposable income from what I can tell on social media. They have grandkids that live out of state but visit frequently. The guy makes the occasional crude/sexual joke on FB (is that normal?!?!). Picture a fat wrinkly old guy with a Cuban hat and a cigar hanging out of his mouth and a giant fake gold watch on his wrist that is trying to live the FL retiree lifestyle but actually depends on his social security check to eat. Don't know much about the woman as she's not very active on FB.
I have no idea who these two are. I don't believe they are any relation to The Skunk Ape or ex stepdad. The city LI lives in... there was no family living there.
Who just lets a 24.5 yr old girl move in with you? All I can think is maybe they are renting out an extra bedroom to her? I honestly have no idea. She's not living with The Fool (her bf) unless he's renting out the room with her. I just really have no idea.
She's led such a strange life. Why didn't she just move in with her new BFF, The Skunk Ape? She just moves around like a gypsy. Her life is always right on the edge. I guess that is probably how The Skunk Ape would have been in her younger years if she didn't have ex stepdad to keep things stable for the family. After he left, things went downhill for her too... now living in a motel.
Its just scary how alike the two of them are. I have to wonder if mental illness has really taken hold over LI.... the way she lives her life doesn't seem normal to me. But I had a very stable upbringing with two parents so I was probably sheltered. Idk. Strange turn of events.
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A lecherous, crude old bloke
A lecherous, crude old bloke who has a 24 yr old move in? I can't imagine why, but the mind boggles.
Yeah.... but.... he's married
Yeah.... but.... he's married? Idk... does that matter?... my mind went down the same rabbit hole honesty.... but I just don't know
I seriously hope it's not
I seriously hope it's not some kind of weird arrangement. I mean, to each their own and not knocking those who have alternative lifestyles but are otherwise responsible, but... If that's the way she chooses to find housing i wonder what other questionable decisions she will make.
I'm hoping maybe she's
I'm hoping maybe she's renting a room or knows the wife from somewhere... I'm married to her father and even I can't stand living with her. Her decisions are VERY questionable. They have been for a while now. Living with weird people... Goofy and his drug running stepdad.... that weird Hispanic teenage couple she basically lived with in HS... now these two old people... I seriously think eventually it's going to come out that she is bipolar or something. Just not leading a normal life
Aging couples have any
Aging couples have any number of dynamics in play. My mind went where the minds of others went as well.
I hope not. But, with LI, it is not beyond the bounds of possibility that she is "paying" rent in barter rather than currency. Maybe with free access to her OnlyFans page or........
Rags if you saw this guy...
Rags if you saw this guy... well I suppose he'd be the type of guy you'd expect to need to pay for "it". Very creepy. I've tried to think of any reason she might be living there and all I can think is last resort. Still I'm pretty certain The Skunk Ape would have offered her a place to stay (provided she help with the motel room rent). Perhaps this is temporary and after Christmas she will move in with her mom... idk though. They won't get along I am sure... and I bet she is reluctant to leave the area where The Fool lives... he apparently hasn't offered her lodging either.
Can't have a sugar granddaddy
Can't have a sugar granddaddy if said granddaddy has no moola....
Example is strong
Your SD watched her BM navigate life and that's what she learned. My SD is following her BM's example, too. It's hard to watch.
Has your DH figured out yet that SD might not be attending college or working much now that she's renting a room from retirees?
He has no idea. He thinks she
He has no idea. He thinks she's still living in the apartment with her friend and attending college for forensic science (either having graduated or about to graduate). No idea she dropped out of that college and no idea about the new living situation
If DH thinks she has already
If DH thinks she has already graduated he not Big Idiot, he's Biggest Idiot. Graduation would be a definite gift grab.
We had a HS graduation party
We had a HS graduation party for her (that I basically planned and put on). She was given $ from everyone and blew it all. Then we had a Coast Guard going away party (that she skipped out on and ran down to FL because she was lying to everyone saying she was going back in) so that was awkward. I'm not hosting anymore graduation parties. She can throw one for herself. I'm done.
And yes he's acting like biggest, most in-denial, head-in-the-sand idiot with his daughter. I have no idea if somewhere deep down he knows something is fishy but I just keep quiet and pray she stays away from me.
Sad. He has no clue because
Sad. He has no clue because he does not want to have a clue.
The hardest part in this type
The hardest part in this type of situation is the not knowing. And the fact that your spouse, their parent, seems to either not know or is hiding things. Constantly wondering what's around the corner. I totally get it. The SD25 in my situation is the same and she just played her trump card (she's pregnant.) What dad can resist his daughter desperately asking to come live at home, with the holy first grandchild baby? SD25 hasn't done that yet but the baby isn't born yet either and SD25 does the above every year or two and the last time was about 9 months ago.
Ugh. I was like you, curious to know what was going on with SD25. If i talked to anyone about her (which i didn't), they may have told me "not your circus, not your business, disengage, don't be controlling", but come on. We all know what the worst case scenario is and that no dad would be able to deny shelter or money if it's not just the adult daughter but a baby....yep. That's the fear and that's why no stepmom can relax with a dysfunctional adult SD. Even if he sees them away from the home. The fear always lurks.
Yup just waiting for the
Yup just waiting for the other shoe to drop. All of the things she's done... I just see her spiraling further down a dark road. I imagine my SD will be pregnant before too long as well... she's just waiting for another Goofy to come along. I just couldn't deal with her moving back in and I really hate kids. It would be miserable. I don't think I could stick around. Honestly being a stepmom is scam. I don't blame you for keeping your ear to the ground. It's stressful when your have stepkid who lives life on the verge of poverty and homelessness. Protect your peace.
What i was unprepared for and
What i was unprepared for and don't understand is all the crying. SO's daughters, 25 and 28, and even his teenage nieces, when i've been around them they cry about something every day. Is it genetic? Is it a learned response to get their way? Seemingly small issues result in sobbing. I'm not unsympathetic but at some point you realize you just can't give a damn if the reason for the sobbing is they wanted Chik Fil A but got McDonald's.
Yep
"No stepmom can relax with a dysfunctional adult SD". Truth.
So ask him straight up when
So ask him straight up when he thinks her graduation will be. If he baulks, ask him what kind of a parent shows so little interest in their offspring. Seriously. Ask him what kind of a job she has seeing as she hasn't told you but that HE, as her parent, MUST know about it.
He freely admits that they
He freely admits that they don't have a close relationship/basically no relationship at all. I have asked and he says "I'm sure she'll let us know all about what's been going on when she visits at Christmas." He says that every time, no matter the time of the year I ask him. TBH I don't really want to encourage him or shame him into being more involved. It has been peaceful with her gone.
When you don’t work
Or have a real job. Your choices in where to live is limited. She probably could not pay the rent in the appaetment. A room has to be cheaper Heres a group of people who are trying to scram each other. Talk dysfunctional.
Yep
And the more she does frequent moves the more red flags she puts up to a prospective landlord; even if she does somehow manage to improve her abysmal credit score. Ask me how I know.
As far as frequent moves,
As far as frequent moves, SD25 here, who is pregnant with her abuser's baby, has lived in 5 cities across 2 states in the past 12 months. Owed multiple payday loans that were past due. No way she has the credit to rent an actual apartment.
Li
Is Skunk Ape Junior! I guess no one could have predicted that /s. In my case I hear little to nothing about the Animal Torturer SD stb 26.
I think you should try the suggestion made on the last post of just you and BI showing up at her new place to do Christmas over there! That would be an instant Pas o u t!
Yank off that band-aid!
With our business, there's no
With our business, there's no way we could take the time off, especially with everyone else who works for us already trying the same thing and us as the owners having to cover for them. It's just not a business where people can cover each other (there's a lot of travel involved and they often aren't willing to pick up extra hours at Christmas anyway) so it inevitably falls on us. Christmas is a time when everyone wants days off to spend extra time with their family it seems so they try to get it anyway possible.... emergencies.... sickness.... vacations... Afterwards? When the holidays are over....Things get surprisingly quiet again but still this business requires constant attention
Same here
However just the threat of you guys coming over to see her would complete the deal. Don't even think you would have to go through with it.
I'm actually surprised she
I'm actually surprised she isn't on the street doing drugs TBH. Unfortunately, that sounds like that my be around the corner if she doesn't have a "come to Jesus" epiphany about her life.
Show her some of Soft White Underbelly interviews.
I don’t understand why you thinkb
LI has it bad. She really doesn't work. Has a place to live. Had a BF. She gets people to pay for her. Your main concern and future problem. Is to keep LI from moving in with you. Or having DH footing her bills
I don’t understand why you thinkb
LI has it bad. She really doesn't work. Has a place to live. Had a BF. She gets people to pay for her. Your main concern and future problem. Is to keep LI from moving in with you. Or having DH footing her bills
Felt this in my core..right
Felt this in my core..right to my very soul ! "No stepmom can relax with a dysfunctional adult SD. They are always lurking just on the periphery and its irritating as all hell. Although, I stopped worrying so much about all the drama and little trials/ tribulations of SD's life ( of which there is no shortage of for long) . As long as none of it becomes my problem either,. That doesnt mean anxiety over it doesnt creep in sometimes. . I am hoping all of LI's choices that seem to be going more downnill dont end up falling to you.