Just getting this out of my system because I feel safe doing so here:
Backstory: when my children were 6 and 4 and my ss was 18, my children came to me one day in tears (shortly before Christmas), saying that skid had told them that Santa Claus isn't real.
Of course I told them that skid had LIED to them because he was mad because they had a good mom and he didn't (immature of me but I was so ANGRY). I think they believed me but it was never really the same for them after that.
When dh came home and I told him what skid had done, all he did was say something to skid like "that wasn't nice" - no punshment, no nothing.
NOW THEN...I will NOT do this because I know in my heart it is WRONG...
but I have always been soooooooo tempted to go to skid's three sons and tell them HEY GUYS, DID YOU KNOW THERE IS NO SANTA CLAUS? JUST ASK YOUR DADDY! Skid's kids are 7, 8, and 13 (the 13 year old has a mentality of about an 8 year old - multiple problems - when you cross an idiot with an idiot you produce and idiot - so he still believes in Santa Claus).
I have told (soon to be ex!) dh many times that I SO want to do that and he says "go ahead" because he KNOWS I WON'T. But ohhhhhhhhhh, holy cow, how badly I want to.
I think (I won't profess to "know" because I am not religious) that someplace in the Bible it says that "the sins of the father shall be revisited upon the sons a thousand times" - or something like that. DH is one of those "holy roller, Bible thumping, know-it-alls" - so I could just telling him that I was doing as God instructed me to do (that's HIS excuse for being an asshole).
Okay - feel better.
JUST. DO. IT paybacks are a
JUST. DO. IT
paybacks are a bitch .. besides .. "God" doesnt like lies and Santa is a lie .. ( not really cause santa lives in the heart of loving parents always ) but yanno paybacks ARE in order sometimes .. after what you delt with in that mess I think its fair
but then I am a bitch as well
Don't go there darlin'
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Oh he didn't!!!! Not at those
Oh he didn't!!!! Not at those ages! GASP!
Santa is sacred. He is more sacred than Chuck Norris.
And Santa is the only person that Chuck Norris hasn't maimed.
Don't mess with Santa. Ever.
You know, an even better solution to that pay back is to collect the
neighborhood dog shit and then put it in a container with glitter,
mix it up and then spread the shit all over his front yard, porch, etc...
The kids will think it's reindeer turd and you get the satisfaction of
making the asshole Santa Hater suffer.
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Dtzy I stole this because
Dtzy I stole this because its to funny not to have a copy of .. Reindeer poop indeed! ROFLMAO
Don't go there darlin'
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^^^^ dtzy, I'm impressed.
^^^^ dtzy, I'm impressed. Not sure how you came up with that one, but I LOVE that idea. Kids get to hold on to Santa, poor old dickhead dad can clean up the reindeer poop!!
Don't know, just was thinking
Don't know, just was thinking of a way to poop on his parade and still keep the sanctity of Sants for the kids. Santa is magical!
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my aunt had my uncle (her
my aunt had my uncle (her brother) dress up in a santa costume and come over late Christmas Eve and put gifts under the tree. she woke my cousin up and they watched from the stairs. she told him he had to be quiet and not let santa know he saw him. i think that was awesome!
"I don't hold grudges. I remember facts."
Do not slip into the gutter.
Do not slip into the gutter.
This is a vent site. I
This is a vent site. I vented. Kiss my ass.
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
OBVIOUSLY venting is about
OBVIOUSLY venting is about letting go. That is exactly what I'm doing. I have nobody/noplace else to safely speak about this stuff so I do it here. That is what most of us are doing here.
When you have a CLUE what my children and I went through at the hands of that beast then you can tell me how I should be dealing with it.
And - maybe you should fill out a profile if you're going to hang around here and make snap conclusions about other people.
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
Oh God, if comments of gather
Oh God, if comments of gather the neighborhood dog poop and sprinkle glitter on it then scatter it in his yard are stoking a fantasy that isn't going to come true, Jesus, we've
gotten way too sensitive around here.
OBG, I'll stoke your fantasies and share them gladly. That's what GFs do, lend an ear, lend a shoulder and laugh at it all!
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WOW so tell me.. who are you a reincarnation of ? .. well it doesnt really matter sweet cheeks....::chuckles::
Jus' try'n to help ya with yer manners is all ..
Don't go there darlin'
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InactivistMama, exactly my
InactivistMama, exactly my point! He had NO business and he had NO right.
He was steamed at his father because his father had given him $50 to put down as a deposit on a whale watching trip his church group was going to take the following spring and he had SPENT. THE. MONEY and his father refused to replace it.
Plus, his father was threatening to refuse to pay his bus ticket to spend Christmas with his sea hag mother. However, I had informed dh that he WAS buying the bus ticket because I would be having a skid free Christmas.
So take it out on my children??? YOU BET I was steamed and if I'm still steamed - SUE ME!!
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
Reality, I'm fairly certain
Reality, I'm fairly certain everyone here is aware that holding on to resentments is not healthy. Folks come here, vent, work it out, or try to purge it. We help each other work it out. I would almost guarantee the OP is not really going to go tell those kids that there is no santa. But obviously, she feels she was slighted by her SS and is hanging on to it.
TONE HAS VERY MUCH TO DO WITH POSTS HERE.. GET THAT?!?!?!?!?!?!!
See? What did I say? Was that offensive? I certainly did not mean for it to be, I was just stating a fact.
There may be some truth to what you said, but when you come ball busting out of the shoot, ready to take somebody's eye out with your approach, the message falls on deaf ears. I can't tell you how to word anything. But since you're kinda new, perhaps you might consider lowering the friction in your posts just a tad. If your intent is to deliver the message that the OP is hanging on to something which will continue to hurt her, there are better ways to say so. Not like, "I think she handled the original incident badly".
Do what you want. At the end of the day, people will forget what you said and what you did but they will not forget how you made them feel (Maya Angelou). And the replies you get will reflect the tone you set.
"Religion is excellent stuff for keeping common people quiet." - Napoleon
newwife3, I completely see
newwife3, I completely see you point - HOWEVER, look at the last line of your reply. It was NOT my step brat's place or his business to tell my kids anything. THAT is the whole point.
He wanted to ruin something for them - because he could. He was always that way and still is.
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
When I was 15 years old, I
When I was 15 years old, I told my then ten-year old brother that God doesn't exist....ooops
LOL! Were there lightening
LOL! Were there lightening bolts and CPS raids?
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I said I wasn't going to do
I said I wasn't going to do it.
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
She said she won't do it. I'm
She said she won't do it.
I'm just shocked that she's been holding onto this for so long. I mean, her skid HAS kids now. I don't understand hanging onto anger like that. Can't be healthy.
Stick a fork in me... I'm done...
it's hard to let go of
it's hard to let go of something that ruined something special for your kids. i would still be pissed, too.
"I don't hold grudges. I remember facts."
Can you mention something to
Can you mention something to your SS like "Do you remember telling my kids that Santa wasn't real? Can you imagine me doing the same to your children now?" Just to see his reaction?
I certainly would not want my kids to be punished for something I did when I was a stupid 18 year old, but you can let him know how effed up it was.
Keep calm and carry on...
SanAntonio, very good idea.
SanAntonio, very good idea. Except I would have to see him to do that and I'm hoping to never see him again. As I have stated repeatedly, I would never actually do that to his children. That is what separates my step son from me and mine - we have some common decency.
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
"Except I would have to see
"Except I would have to see him to do that and I'm hoping to never see him again."
He can't hurt you anymore. He's no longer a threat. He's now dead to you. You made it to the brass ring!!! Takes a little while for that to really sink in and bury all their attacks with them, but in time, I hope you will be able to. Dead people don't have opinions. They mean nothing to you. Remind yourself that he's dead to you. Take away the power he still has in your head. Took me a while too and if I allow myself, I can get pretty worked up over my SD's. But they are dead to me. That always reminds me to try to stay in the present, with people I love.
"Religion is excellent stuff for keeping common people quiet." - Napoleon
StepAside - yeahhhhh...what
StepAside - yeahhhhh...what you said. Thanks!
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
I had to tell my 9 year old
I had to tell my 9 year old son the Santa truth right after the announcement of his dad and I divorcing. It was hard for me because it felt like one tragedy on another, but I gave the "Yes Virgina there is a Santa" speech and he was so happy to find out that now that he knew he was in on the adults secret identity. We we're going to the grocery store and he asked for change to give to the bell ringers then said "wow I played santa for the very first time mom!"
Kids get told the facts all the time, venting about doing it as revenge is actually healthy keeping it in and potentially popping off at the mouth from holding shit in too long is the unhealthy part.
I am not an option
Lalena, you raised a good
Lalena, you raised a good boy, that is so sweet!!
Thank you for your comment about venting. I'm just "getting it out and letting it go" is all - I don't know why people get their drawers all in a bunch over it.
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
Well I get your temptation
Well I get your temptation for payback. But it would seem his kids don't deserve it to me. HE on the other hand well why not scare the shit out of him and tell him you have never forgotten how he hurt your kids by telling them there's no Santa. Tell hi
You're just might let him know how it feels by letting his kids know this year that there is no Santa. DON'T do it though. Instead get the dog poo and glitter and let those reindeers go wild. Much better than hurting the kids.
emotionaly beat up, no I
emotionaly beat up, no I would never do it. Not the kids' fault and they already have soooooooo many problems, not the least of which is who their parents are. It's so sad really, the situation that they live in.
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
Seems like the SS committed a
Seems like the SS committed a "status offense." Had he been a cousin or your own child, would you have been so upset? Probably not.
Stepmothers and stepfathers may come and go. Divorces happen even without stepchildren. I wonder if your own biological children will inspire the same feelings in your DH's third wife?
Bothsidesnow
I doubt it, my children are
I doubt it, my children are grown and have very productive lives of their own and have nothing to gain but making dh's FIFTH (NOT third - FIFTH) wife miserable. Besides if they ever did anything as CRUEL as that I would kick their butts and they know it.
Stepped over, stepped on, stepped around, stepped in it and almost drowned. Done.
oh goody, another one. yawn.
oh goody, another one. yawn.
"I don't hold grudges. I remember facts."